Have you ever visited a concession stand or football game and was given a beverage in one of those Coca-Cola cups? Sometimes, there is Sprite, lemonade, or water down juice in the cup. The point is, most of the time what’s actually in the cup does not reflect what’s on the outside of the cup.
Many of us are just like that Coca-Cola cup. We appear to be really strong, fearless, and beautiful… But on the inside many of us are bitter, insecure, or hurt. We are nothing like how others perceive us to be. But on the inside we are longing just to be free.
I was this way for a long time in my marriage, due to unforgiveness. When my husband cheated I became hurt and insecure. I hid it very well, especially at church or at family gatherings. Unfortunately, when I got back in the privacy of my own home, I would let my husband have it! I would call him out of his name, curse him and talk down on him. I would do this just to hear him apologize to me again. The truth was, he could never repay me for all he had done. God was not the head of my marriage, and it reflected. The bible says: A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands (proverbs 14:1). The truth was I was not only tearing my house down, I was breaking my husband down as well.
I had a friend who suggested marriage counseling to us. Although I hesitated to go, I thank God for her pushing me. We later found a church home that God had ordained for us. Honestly, I still deal with some insecurities. God completely healed me from the bitterness and I’m on my way to my complete healing. I now see my husband how God sees him; his masterpiece and the son of the most high God. My marriage never went back to the good old days. It got better than that. God restored it! We are two totally different people who love Christ and are striving to keep him first in our marriage.
Thought to ponder:
Who do you need to forgive?
Action to take:
Forgive those who have hurt, betrayed, or offended you in anyway. Remember that forgivesness is not for the other person. It is for you. Unforgiveness keeps you from growing spiritually and can cause you to stumble. It also opens the door to spiritual sickness such as bitterness, depression, oppression and ect.
Verse to meditate on:
Even if that person wrong you seven times a day and each time turns again and ask for forgiveness, you must forgive.
Prayer to pray:
Father God you are the lifter up of my head. You are Jehovah Rapha, my healer. Father God forgive me for harboring unforgiveness in my heart. Create in me a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Lord I thank you for my healing in Jesus name! Father God I forgive
(Insert person’s name) and I release them back to you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.