Have you ever visited a concession stand or football game and was given a beverage in one of those Coca-Cola cups? Sometimes, there is Sprite, lemonade, or water down juice in the cup. The point is, most of the time what’s actually in the cup does not reflect what’s on the outside of the cup.
Many of us are just like that Coca-Cola cup. We appear to be really strong, fearless, and beautiful… But on the inside many of us are bitter, insecure, or hurt. We are nothing like how others perceive us to be. But on the inside we are longing just to be free.
I was this way for a long time in my marriage, due to unforgiveness. When my husband cheated I became hurt and insecure. I hid it very well, especially at church or at family gatherings. Unfortunately, when I got back in the privacy of my own home, I would let my husband have it! I would call him out of his name, curse him and talk down on him. I would do this just to hear him apologize to me again. The truth was, he could never repay me for all he had done. God was not the head of my marriage, and it reflected. The bible says: A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands (proverbs 14:1). The truth was I was not only tearing my house down, I was breaking my husband down as well.
I had a friend who suggested marriage counseling to us. Although I hesitated to go, I thank God for her pushing me. We later found a church home that God had ordained for us. Honestly, I still deal with some insecurities. God completely healed me from the bitterness and I’m on my way to my complete healing. I now see my husband how God sees him; his masterpiece and the son of the most high God. My marriage never went back to the good old days. It got better than that. God restored it! We are two totally different people who love Christ and are striving to keep him first in our marriage.
Thought to ponder:
Who do you need to forgive?
Action to take:
Forgive those who have hurt, betrayed, or offended you in anyway. Remember that forgivesness is not for the other person. It is for you. Unforgiveness keeps you from growing spiritually and can cause you to stumble. It also opens the door to spiritual sickness such as bitterness, depression, oppression and ect.
Verse to meditate on:
Luke17:4 (NLT)
Even if that person wrong you seven times a day and each time turns again and ask for forgiveness, you must forgive.
Prayer to pray:
Father God you are the lifter up of my head. You are Jehovah Rapha, my healer. Father God forgive me for harboring unforgiveness in my heart. Create in me a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Lord I thank you for my healing in Jesus name! Father God I forgive
(Insert person’s name) and I release them back to you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
I am guilty of being bitter, upset, and putting my husband down for things he’s said or did in the past! However, forgiveness brings such joy and peace to me! I had to re evaluate myself, God forgives us so how was it I couldn’t forgive my husband? I thank God and give him the glory I’ve learned to forgive and move forward!
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Amen! 🙌 God freely forgive us all the time. I’m happy that you have found the joy in peace that forgiveness bring. Thanks for sharing !
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Awesome message my sister! God is definitely using you to help us. To God be the Glory!!!
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Thanks sis and yes…To God be the glory!
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Thank you WOG for this Blog it’s a blessing to be able to be so transparent and allow the Holy Ghost to use you to help others get to this very place,All has been forgiven after reading this I had to sit and think! Have I been holding on to unforgiving someone truth is YES I have I needed to forgive myself for a few things I allowed and WoW!!! I can say it felt refreshing to come out of prayer in a praise of freedom and thankfulness! I luv you Let the Lord continue to use you mightily… NoMakeUpMonday-A breath of fresh air!!!!😘
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Thank you sis for the encouragement and thanks for being open and honest! As Women of God we need to be able to know that we all have to die daily from our flesh. To tell you the truth, forgivesness is a choice, and when you chose to forgive, you are choosing to be free!
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Woooow!!! I’m rejoicing right now,for having the heart to be obiedient and doing just what this blog has said on today, Forgiven =Forever= Freedom…..Thank you lord for it all! I luv this!!!! This blog is giving us life WOG! Continue to allow the Holy Ghost to use you,I’m excited about this move of God, NomakeupMonday-I luv it!!! 😘Luv ya!
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Yes! Thanks sis! I love you too 😘
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I can’t lie, I still resent mine for what he allowed his ex to do to me, but I am working so hard to stop blaming him for her actions.. it is a struggle but I do try. Looking at how your marriage has evolved is very inspirational! Thanks for this message sister!!
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Honesty is the best start to freedom sis! Thank you and Thanks for being transparent! I pray that you are able to completely forgive them both so you can be free indeed and enjoy all the things that God has in front of you! The best is yet to come!!!! 🙌🏾😘
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