Over the past few years the Lord has been teaching me to come to Him first with my problems. Of course I had to learn the hard way. I thought that everyone who was a family member, Christian, or friend, was the perfect candidate to solve my problems, especially my marital problems. From a hurting place, I poured out my deepest intimate problems. Little did I know, people where gathering information about me to use it to harm me.
Growing up I was always told that a closed mouth won’t get fed. Meaning, if I didn’t ask or tell people what I wanted or needed, I wouldn’t get anything. Well this statement has a great point, but it does not have any biblical truth. It seemed to reference getting help from people first and not Jesus. Actually, it’s too vague. The Holy Spirit spoke to me and gave me this revelation: Everybody is not qualified to solve your problems. Therefore, stop telling people your business. The truth is in Matthews 7:6-8; Do not give dogs what is holy; do not throw your pearls before swine. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces. Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
You see I was the one to blame for allowing my family and friends into my business. As a baby in Christ, I lacked discernment and wisdom. I use to get frustrated with my husband and vent to people about him. But I learned that most of them could not help me, they talked about my marriage, and they gave me ungodly council. To make matters worse, when I thought I learned my lesson. I went to so called Christians for advice. The problem was they would tell me what the Bible said about my marriage, but would go behind my back and talk about my marriage to other people and add lies. All I wanted was for someone to listen to me. But God! As I started leaning on Him more and maturing in the things of Christ, He gave me wisdom. He started to uncover people and their motives. I started praying for my husband and marriage, asking God for more wisdom and discernment, and a forgiving heart. I found out that Jesus wanted me to come to Him about my marriage. Whatever I stand in need of, I should open up to Him in prayer first.
Remember; think twice before venting to people about your problems. A closed mouth won’t get fed! Therefore, it won’t get fed foolishness, ungodly council, doubt, etc. Don’t get me wrong, God does use people. He will anoint someone who can solve your problems, just know that everyone is not qualified to solve them.
Verse of Mediation:
How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.