Get Out of the Driver’s Seat

Just recently this month, my husband and I attended a marriage retreat; a much-needed retreat! I learned so much that could help enhance our marriage. I was hoping my husband learned just as much as I did, especially things like considering me first etc. On our way back from the retreat I was very sleepy. To add it was starting to get dark outside. My husband knows I can’t see well at night, however he insisted that I drive first so he could sleep. I thought to myself how selfish he was! However, he still insisted that I drive. As I begin to drive, I started getting upset and thinking to myself, don’t he care? Did he learn anything from the retreat? He woke up 2 hours later when we were almost home. I was very tired by then. He noticed and insisted that I pull over so he could drive. I was still upset and full of pride that I told him ” I got it, we are almost home now.” 15 minutes later I drifted off the road and it scared both of us. He sternly insisted that I pull over right away! Therefore, I reluctantly pulled over.

That night I prayed and as much as I hate to admit it; I was praying how my husband should change. The next day the Holy Spirit revealed to me that it was me that needed changing. I need to change my response to my husband when things don’t go my way. My marriage keeps repeating certain cycles, because I won’t change. I immediately started to pray for God to change me, not my husband. I need to take my hands off the stirring wheel and allow God to drive. I have been treating God like I was treating my husband that night. I been saying that I got it, I can handle it. But all God wanted was for me to cast all my cares on Him. He is in control and he will lead me where I need to go. Whenever I take control and try to handle it, I will always run off the road. He never intended for me to “handle it”. He requires I pray and give him all my concerns! Yes, that includes my husband. My job is to love and respect my husband , no matter what he does or doesn’t do for me. Soon as I repented I felt my peace come back. My prayer from now on, is to change me and my response to my husband when he is not living up to my expectations. God is the only one who can change him. My part is simple…. just to love him!

Verse of meditation: Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

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Author: Telleice Caraway

I'm a dedicated wife, author, CLC and mother of a blended family of five children and 3 grandchildren. I started a personal relationship with Jesus Christ on March 2, 2013. From that day forward, my life has forever changed! I love Jesus and I have a passion for helping women of all ages and walks of life. As a Certified Lactation Counselor, I enjoy helping moms and baby breastfeed successfully. My favorite moto is "Any breast milk is better than none." I believe every mother and baby have their own unique breastfeeding journey. I look forward to walking with families to make the journey rewarding! I have been married to my loving husband, Michael since 2005 . We have experienced God's unmerited favor on our lives. However, It has not always been easy. Just like other married couples, we have faced many obstacles: In-law issues, financial issues, blended family issues, infidelity, cheating, etc. In 2011, we were near a divorce and our marriage was nearly over, but God had other plans for our union. He has restored our marriage, healed, and delivered us both. We are now SYMBIS Marriage Counselors and the proud founders of A2GG (Adding 2 God’s Gifts ( A2GG is a sports development and mentor-ship program for the youth. To conclude, we enjoy attending church and helping families overcome the strategies of the enemy.

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